Love, is a powerful four letter word that can transform the hardest of conditions. Interestingly enough, in the appearance of the lack of love, every human will tell you that love is the answer to quell human ills. We all know in a deep visceral way that love is our nature, our birthright. It is common to hear on a daily basis, “What the world needs is more love,” “Love makes the world go around,” “I love this or that….,” and “I love you.” Love is peppered in our conversations. However, the concept of love seems to be difficult to understand and/or apply in all our interactions. For some, love means ownership, for others, it is a “religion”, as though it were a daily practice. In some instances, love is used to create division. It can be divisive, thereby creating polarization.
Erich Fromm, author of The Art of Loving, said, “Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.” And, I completely agree. But why is it that something so simple, so natural, so familiar seems so complicated to understand or practiced as a way of life. Maybe the complication is rooted in being a “grown up.” Too often, playing the role of an “adult” tends to drain the fun, curiosity and playfulness out of life. Through societal and cultural conditioning, we erroneously believed that being serious, tough and super focused are the keys to success. Nothing can be further from the truth. True success is inspired by love.
Love is essential for our growth. Love harmonizes and restores our well-being. Rather than focus on the various expressions of love, i.e., romantic, brotherly and agape, I am going to take the liberty and focus mainly on Agape/Agapeo Love aka, Unconditional Love. I call this, “True Love.”
How do you love unconditionally in a world full of conditions, rules, expectations and assumptions? This is one of the greatest challenges of being human. Unconditional love is a force. It is a “power-full” energy that dissolves anything that is unlike itself. This is why people find it challenging to love or maybe I should say, why people find it challenging to demonstrate love. Love is a verb. Love without action is just words. It is empty. To love is a choice. When love is expressed through actions, both the giver and the receiver are changed. When I say, “changed” I mean, changed, as in transformation!!! It is the kind of change that ice cubes experience when they come in contact with heat. Love is indeed fiery. The fire of love will melt you and all that is not in vibrational alignment with its high frequency.
This process of “melting” is synonymous to death. The death of the egoic (fear) mind. And in this instance, it is really a death. To experience unconditional love there must be a death - ending.
What does that look like in our relationships? Well, to be loving, you must be willing to let go. Let go of judgment, blame, criticism or the need to be right. All of these hinder the flow of love.
In order to know love, be love and to extend love, you must be willing to melt into a new reality. It is an act of surrender. Surrender in this case, means, yielding to your greater good. It is a willingness to be transformed. Love will soften your heart. It will change your view on life. It can and will draw people and experiences to you that inspire you to be more. You will find yourself being more in the flow of life. Even when you are growing through challenges, your will notice a sense of anchoring within your spirit. You will live in a space of perpetual calmness, joy, creativity and gratitude.
Love is attractive – it attract positive relationships and transforms all that no longer serves you. Whatever comes in contact with love will change form and will be made brand new. This is true growth. In a sense, love returns you to your true self, to your childlike (innocent) nature. That self that is powerful beyond measure.
Yes, to love is to take a risk… a risk to surrendering to the call of your soul… a risk to face the beloved within you and others… and a risk to melt into peace, kindness and gentleness. Paradoxically, what you perceive as risks are really your “Life-Giving” rewards.
Until next time,
I love you!
I bless you!
I appreciate you and I thank God for you!!
Be Still. Listen. Be Transformed
Life Coach Ade